Others may have had penetrative sex but not “count” it for one reason or another.
Some may have had physical intercourse with another person – oral sex, mutual masturbation, possibly even anal sex – but consider themselves virgins because they’ve never had penile/vaginal sex. I can’t count the number of letters I’ve gotten from virgin readers, men and women of just about every age who have not had sex yet and are desperately afraid that they’re “too late”.
There are few topics more fraught with anxiety and confusion – for men and women – than the idea of virginity.